Resilience, ask Bex about it
For me, Bex, a fellow writing friend, is the symbol of resilience. With limited experience, not fit enough, doubting herself but still crossing the length Israel, 1000 km, on her two feet. How did she do it? One small step at a time.
Sometimes our ability to preserve and do our best bit-by-bit is more than enough to keep momentum. However, it doesn’t guarantee success, but hell, you can always change direction. Enough small steps will eventually lead to the next big thing. Ask Bex about the power of insignificant steps!
Another strategy is to admit that you are not always in control. Therefore you need to accept that any result is possible. And be able to thrive when things do go wrong. In these cases, you need the strength to pause, observe, take control and make a rational decision.
Bottom line: We are all on a journey, not an event, and resilience will pull us through. After all, it is a skill, you can learn it.
Failure, the key to success
Observing a skilful artisan at work can be so rewarding. To see how they control their tools, craft and material to create something from nothing. You may even think that they can do it with their eyes closed.
On the contrary, seeing a trader or gambler at work is not for the faint at heart. We will forgive you thinking that they require Buckley’s hope to achieve results. But how often do we misjudge luck and variance for skill?
Frequently, we base our judgement on a small sample of seemingly successful traders and leaders. In the process, we identify skills and categorize them as a requirement. Where in fact, many with the same skillset were not able to make it.
Bottom line: Only focusing on the successful will blind you for real reasons of success.
Go and spread like a virus.
There are viruses everywhere, in the air, even on my computer, and it can spread like wildfire. However, this is also true for kindness, as it will return in multiples. The same for laughter, it is infectious.
To spread kindness requires a network. We are too aware that a single node will bring us nowhere. The power is in the connections between the nodes. That is how we share kindness, trust and knowledge.
The same is true for distrust, doubt and scepticism. And fake news. Today you may be at the peak but throw us under the bus, and you will tumble quickly.
Bottom line: How we make people feel is the only thing that matters.
Entitlement, experience without work
Baking a cake that all my friends crave about does not transform me into an accomplished pâtissier. Sometimes it is beginners luck. The next one could be a flop. O, how tempted are we to project with only one data point.
Pushing your skills for 10,000 hours may get you there according to some. It appears to grit on your teeth and wade through the mud will help. That is if the rules of the game stay the same.
Connecting the dots to early may be risky. But one thing is for sure; you need to stick around until you master the rules. If the rules are not clear, you may need a good dose of luck to succeed. But that’s a different game.
Bottom line: Living through all the seasons bring experience, everything else before that is entitlement.
The fancy of the unkown.
Nothing is simple; everything has a level. Everyone will disregard the depth, but most of the time, it’s deep; from your flights of fancy, the tone of your voice, the palate of your wine, to the label on your jean.
So when things don’t go your way, a friend doesn’t answer a call or join you for dinner, is it a coincidence or by purpose? Your reaction will divulge your self absorbance. Because you are a projection of your thoughts.
Bottom line: Enjoy the little things in life. Stop, pause and absorb. And imagine the less—the unknown. Don’t measure yourself to deep.
The race of the rodents.
The race is on. We are moving at the speed of light. Some may call it a rat race. But why do we need to blame a poor rodent if we destroy the planet and a few relationships in the process?
A desire for control and dominance are fueling our engines. Nothing will get in the way of self-interest, not even a loved one. Another tap on the shoulder is all that we desire while we suck it up.
The alternative is to concentrate on dignity, respect and integrity. Also, the relinquishing of selfishness and greed is required while maintaining ample amounts of generosity.
Bottom line: For a measured, moderate and steady race, you will need a fair amount of patience and guts. Plus, if you do have the perseverance, the reward may come as a surprise.